“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” — William Shakespeare
When something goes horribly wrong, our emotions hardly feel like a choice. It’s logical to feel upset, angry or guilty about a negative situation, so it only makes sense to react accordingly, right?
Not entirely. Research suggests that our happiness is more of a choice than purely influenced by circumstance. And as the Shakespeare quote above implies, the nature of our situations may just be determined by how we categorize them. In other words, a negative attitude may appear to be the logical reaction, but that doesn’t mean we have to adopt one.
It isn’t hard to be one of those people who looks on the bright side of life, but it might take some practice. In honor of Positive Thinking Day, below are six tips for becoming a more glass-half-full kind of thinker. The difference between those who see the positive over the negative also lies in their observations. Suprina says positive-minded individuals squash the ANTs, or automatic negative thoughts, as soon as they start to appear.
- PRACTICE AWARENESS
Most negative thoughts aren’t conscious, we’re not even aware of them,” he explains. “Positive thinkers are aware of those messages they’re telling themselves and the direction they’re taking them. They don’t go down that rabbit hole of negativity — they catch it and reverse it around.”
- AVOID LABELING THOUGHTS
“In order to achieve this type of thought process, we also need to let go of judgment,” says Suprina. “In our society we have this tendency to label something as either good or wrong. One way to do this is through mindfulness. By engaging in the practice, you gain more recognition over what goes through your mind, and as a result, you’re more capable of addressing it. “The work for anyone struggling with perpetual negative thinking is to recognize that these thoughts are just that — thoughts, and not facts,” licensed psychotherapist Courtney Gregory writes over at Greatist. “Then, it’s time to challenge these automatic patterns of thinking.
3.FEED YOUR POSITIVISM
-The only way to expand any skill set is to build habits that reinforce that behavior — and that goes for positive thinking as well, Suprina says. In order to become a more positive person, he suggests doing activities that can help cultivate those emotions. Studies have shown that practices like meditation and journaling, as well as spending time with your friends and family, all have the ability to increase positive feelings. And positive feelings = positive thoughts.
Toxic situations are easily the biggest influencers on a negative mind. Research suggests that stress is indeed contagious — and the more you surround yourself with it, the more likely you are to let it affect your thoughts.
On the flip side, studies show that happiness is also catching. In order to maintain their sunny disposition, positive thinkers only surround themselves with people and things that will help that attitude flourish, Suprina says. And as a result, their lives are a whole lot brighter.
4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Positive people has really a great influence to negative people, the more they enjoy both of their company, this seriously cause a big impact to the negative person, as it changes the way he/she thinks.
I didn’t do much of this during the weekend, so I literally had to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also felt lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown.
Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.
For example, instead of thinking, “We are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,” think, “We will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.”
Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.
The way I was thinking and acting, you would think I was stuck. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. I will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.
Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.
It’s easy to dwell on your mistakes. I felt terrible that I acted this way and that I wasted our weekend. The only thing I can do now is learn from my mistakes and move forward. I definitely don’t want to have a weekend like that again.
I don’t remember lyrics very well and it’s probably the reason that I don’t enjoy singing, but every time I do sing I always feel better. When we sing, we show our feelings and this provides an amazing stress relief.
Read positive quotes
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
Happy positive thinking!